What is influence?
Influence is the power to affect, control or manipulate something or someone; the ability to change the development of fluctuating things such as conduct, thoughts, or decisions.
Influencing people is not as easy as them listening to you. It is easy to get people to listen to what you have to say to them but getting them to act on what you’ve told them is not that easy.
You can speak to people on a subject without you seeing any improvement from them. They just listen to whatever you say but will never change. Being able to people is quite difficult to do. So these are some ways you can try to influence people.
6 ways to influence people
Build trust and be consistent
To be the most effective influencer of others, you must first establish trust and then be consistent. By garnering their trust and continuously looking out for their best interests. This can be accomplished by constantly telling the truth to your friends and others, rather than lying or bragging.
To do so, it’s critical to establish a foundation of real concern for people before attempting to steer them toward a specific outcome. You must demonstrate to them that you are trustworthy and really interested in assisting them.
Be an active listener rather than a transmitter
People want to be around those they like, and one way to get people to like you is to be a good listener. Yes, to be able to influence people you need to do the talking but people will listen to you more if they feel they are being heard.
So listen to them and offer them the advice and encouragement they need to succeed. Let people know they can come to you with their problems. And it is only by actively listening can you give them the right solutions.
Give people what they want
You can increase your level of influencing other people by giving them what they want. You can start by considering their needs, perspective, and temperaments. By doing and saying what they really want to hear from you, you can also catch their attention as well. Answer their questions and find out from them what you can do to show your care and concern for them.
Stay focused on what matters
Removing yourself from certain issues and competition set you apart as an influential person. Stay focused on what really matters. Do your research. This is because being more knowledgeable about something makes people know they can trust your input on the subject.
So focus on the subject at hand and find out the strategic steps that will make people succeed when they practice what you want them to.
Have courage and confidence
Having courage means being confident, not afraid or easily intimidated, but without being incautious or inconsiderate. Having faith means the process of forming or understanding abstractions, ideas, or beliefs, without empirical evidence, experience, or observation.
As an influencer, you need to have the ability to tap into both. So that you can influence people to embrace the same courage and faith.
This doesn’t mean you won’t have fears. You may have fears but knowing how to act in spite of your fears and not letting those fears rule you is what matters.
Connect with emotions
If you actually do connect with other people’s emotions. They always do things for you. Without any need to ask them. You need to connect your emotions with them and become more understanding. Indeed this will help you to influence other people and they can make you a leader. If you can connect with other people’s emotions, they will be able to understand you and you will be able to influence them as well.