There’s no denying that when you’re married, the spark sometimes fizzles out a bit. Life gets busy, bodies change, and hormones fluctuate—and sex gets a little routine (or sometimes non-existent) for a while.
But it’s not just married couples that go through passion-related fluctuations. Any couple who’s been together long-term knows that it can be hard to keep the flames of desire burning, and that’s completely normal!
However, without a plan of action to switch things up a bit, the lack of excitement can become frustrating. That’s why we’re going to look at ways to celebrate your wedding anniversary with all the enthusiasm of newlyweds, from kinky games to toys and so much more.
Splash Out On Sex Toys
Sex toys are amazing, and if you haven’t yet tried them, now’s your chance. You can even give them to each other as a gift, instead of jewelry!
There’s a whole world of different types of toys to explore too—think vibrators, dildos, whips, and handcuffs, among many others. You can start with a small vibrator or dildo if you’re a little shy, or if you’re no shrinking violet, head straight for the strap-ons, butt plugs, or vibrating cock rings.
The sheer variety of sex toys makes them a great place to start when searching for ways to spice up a special night like your wedding anniversary. There is such a broad spectrum of options to try out, allowing you to choose one or two that truly suit your style and experience level.
That said, don’t be afraid to try out something you’ve never tried before. You might be surprised by how much you like it. And if you don’t, simply stop and try something else.
Get Frisky Somewhere Fresh
Most married couples have sex in the bedroom, but why stop there? As a wedding anniversary treat, why not find a safe but slightly different spot to get naughty in?
While being careful not to break any laws or attract creepy onlookers, see if you can find a private spot in a non-traditional place such as a beach, in a forest, a backroom, or some other controlled but not overly busy place that can serve as a sweet little spot for sexy antics.
Even a bedroom that’s not your own (such as a hotel one) can be enough of an environmental shift that it feels like a fresh, new experience. Ultimately, the point here is to get yourselves in a tantalizingly unusual environment and use it as a saucy backdrop to a night of elevated lovemaking.
Live Out Your Fantasies
Your anniversary is the ideal time to get to know each other in new ways, and what better way to do that than to live out your fantasies together? If your partner would love to see you dressed in latex or you want to indulge in food play, do it!
Sharing your fantasies and making them come to life is incredibly kinky, and it has the added bonus of being a bonding experience. Who knows what you may unlock in each other when you start sharing your deepest desires and decadent dreams?
Experiment With Role Play
Role play is one of those kinky activities that most people fantasize about but either aren’t sure where to start or don’t know how to articulate what they want. If you want to spice up your wedding anniversary night, that might need to change—and it’s easier than you may think.
Scenarios such as teacher/student, doctor/patient, strangers at a bar, boss/employee, and fitness instructor/client are just a few examples of popular role-play dynamics, but the sky’s the limit as long as both of you feel comfortable in their role.
You can amplify the game by dressing up in sexy outfits that suit your role and add to the fun. Just make sure to have some safe words and clear parameters so that you both feel comfortable throughout the experience.
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Watch an Adult Movie Together
Not everyone likes watching adult movies, but if you and your spouse do, watching it together can be a great way to get into a sexy mood. It can also give you great ideas about positions you want to try, toys that tickle your fancy, and scenarios that get you hot under the collar.
If you’ve never watched one together but want to give it a try, discuss what type of movies turn you on and what you’d prefer to watch. Even the conversation can get you going. When you’re ready, you can relax and watch the action unfold, before you start your own!
Play A Kinky Game
There are loads of sexual card games designed to get couples in the mood and to enhance their together time in new and exciting ways. Even something simple like Truth or Dare, Never Have I Ever, or Naked Twister can create some sexy but fun scenarios.
The best part is, you can choose a game that suits your relationship but that still brings the kink factor. If you’re less vanilla and more adventurous, there’s also a game for you to try!
Consider Bringing In A Third
Now, this one isn’t for every couple, and that’s absolutely fine. But if this is something you’re both genuinely keen on and there is plenty of trust and communication between you, having a safe threesome with someone you’re both attracted to can be a great way to spice up your sex life.
Needless to say, not all couples are comfortable with this kind of arrangement. However, if it suits you be sure to set your boundaries and expectations upfront, and then get down to it.
Turn Up The Heat On Your Anniversary
It’s totally normal for couples to go through sexual ups and downs. Keeping the spark alive requires real effort; it’s not something that just happens on its own.
Fortunately, there are ways to bring that spark back and refresh your sex life, just in time to celebrate your upcoming wedding anniversary. Use these tips to ramp up the kink and really enjoy your time together.
