In my last post here I shared that I had a baby and I can’t believe it’s been a month already. This past few weeks haven’t been easy at all with a toddler and a baby so I took some time off blogging but today, I thought I should share my maternity photos and photos of her on the blog.

Not just that, I also want to share some body image issues I’ve been dealing with. I’ve always been a slim girl and that never bothered me.
Although it’s like most people were counting on me gaining weight after giving birth since that is what usually happens around here.

But after I had my first baby, unlike most people, I didnt gain weight. And at first that didnt bother me because I like the way I was and I knew I was slim but when people started talking about my weight, it started getting to me.
I lost my self confidence and I didnt even like myself anymore. I looked at myself in the mirror and I didnt like what I saw. Sometimes, I cried because I wanted to gain weight so people won’t criticize me for being slim. I felt I didnt look good in anything I wore and so I stopped taking outfit of the day photos.

 There were days that I wanted to take medications that would make me grow fat but I didnt because I was breastfeeding and I knew that wasn’t good for my baby. All these because I let what people were saying get to me. The sad thing is after my second baby, the same thing is happening. Everyone is talking about my weight again and saying I should gain weight this time around.
I am slim, not because I want to be or I choose to be but because I just am. I do not have anorexia. Infact, I am always eating. But everybody is different. Some people gain weight after child birth, others lose weight. And the sad thing is people will criticize you for being different. But whether or not that affects you depends solely on you.

So this time around, I say to hell with anyone who will talk about my weight. I love me just the way I am and I don’t care that you hate that I am slim. It is my body. What I look like is none of your business. You can let it bother you that I am slim but for me, I choose not to care about what you say or think. I am not going to let people bully me into getting fat. I don’t have to please anybody.
Instead of spending my time infront of the mirror feeling unattractive and sad, I’m going to enjoy my time with my girls, have tonnes of fun with them and take as many photos as I can.
There is nothing more sexy than a confident woman.

It is actually sad that people associate gaining weight and getting fat to good living and happiness. So that someone can tell me, “because you are not gaining weight and you are slim, people will think you are not happy in your marriage. Everyone gets fat after giving birth, so you not getting fat means something is wrong with you”. What the hell kind of talk is that? I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. I dont need to get fat just for people to know I am happy. I am happy with the way I look and I dont need to please anybody and I don’t care what anyone thinks.

So I say a big thank you to my dear husband Liam. You are the best husband a girl could ever wish for. Through all these times, you never stopped reminding me that I am beautiful just the way I am and that I shouldnt let what people say get to me.
I’m sorry it took me so long to gain my confidence back but this time around I’m not going to let what people say get to me again.
I know I’m not the only one with body image issues. If you are reading this and you are like me, I want you to know that you are beautiful just the way you are. So you should love yourself because if you cant love yourself, how do you expect others to love you?
Don’t let what people say get to you and make you sad. Be happy and content with the way you look. The decision to gain or lose weight should be yours. It shouldn’t be to please anyone.

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